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A full day–and little Jack.


Oh dear, what a long time it has been. We feel like time moves so much more quickly now that we have a little one among us. Months feel like weeks. Weeks feel like days. And so it goes. Today was a good day. It started off fairly beautifully, with our little man smiling and laughing and cooing. He is amazing us around every corner, making us smile and laugh with joy at each turn. He has these mornings now where he wakes up, eats a good breakfast, and then just contentedly looks around his world and enjoys being with his Mommy & Daddy. He lies between us and smiles, and we just soak it up. At the difficult moments of my days, it’s a special blessing to think back to the morning (however long ago and far away it may seem) and smile at our moments with one another.

So this morning was one of those sweet, sweet mornings, and then it took a turn for the unexpected. Troy was leaving for work, and he was going out the door when he said to me, “Honey, come here… look.” I was a little scared to see what it would be–he had a tone that I don’t often hear. A bit of hesitation, a bit of worry. He grabbed my hand and pulled me towards the door, and what I saw amazed me: A little bunny. Tiny. Just a hint of a rabbit, really. It was lying on our doormat, still as could be, with its eyes closed and ears flattened. We’d never seen a baby rabbit so small, and so very vulnerable. I’m sure a chord was struck within me, having just birthed my own little tiny one. I wanted to help it, wanted to do something for it. So my hubs had to go to work, and he said, “Will you take care of it?!” With the hope I saw in his eyes, how could I not?

I checked around, and eventually after speaking to a few people (via the web, and phone) I finally was advised to take the baby inside because of the ridiculous heat. I did that, and was glad I did because he was looking even more small and tired than the last time I had checked on him. I put our dogs and cat away (who knows… you just can’t be too safe with something like this!) and brought Jack into the house and placed him gently in the bottom of a big rubbermaid with a warm tee-shirt.

I wondered and thought about what would happen to sweet Jack, took a few photos and a video, and then imagined myself nursing him with a tiny little syringe full of “kitten milk,” the pet formula the vet had suggested I purchase. I was terrified, thinking of how I know so little about baby bunnies, and worried to have such a small life on my hands without any knowledge of his needs. Thankfully, I did not have to go through that scenario because I was given the number of a wildlife rehab person in the area. I drove Jack out to her, and handed him over carefully. Whew. What a relief to give him to a professional–someone who knew what he needed! Someone who wouldn’t screw him up with their well-intentioned mistakes (like perhaps, I could have). In those moments, I am reminded of motherhood and mothering: I try and try to know everything I can about my baby, but in the end I have to give him over to the One who is so much bigger, who knows him inside and out. Something I never can do, no matter what. I will never know him as much as his Creator does. Something no mother can do all the way for their baby, no matter how good a mother they are. Whether you’re great at mothering or you’re the most uncertain mother on the planet, God will be a better mother than you are. Comforting thoughts to me, at least. I’d rather know that He is in control of all of that, anyway. Amazing how a tiny bunny can change my life and remind me of God’s goodness. And God knows more than Karp, or Brazelton, or Spock. Especially Spock. Ha!

So, after all of that excitement and life-saving, I was pretty pooped by around 1 o’clock. I was so thankful that my mom had asked me what my plans were for the day, because I really needed some babying. Do you have those days when you need to be taken care of? Most of us would hate to admit it, but you know–it’s so freeing when you finally do. When you sink into the arms of a friend or loved one who understands and cares for you, there is nothing better than hanging up your pride and your big girl pants, and deciding to be vulnerable and allowing them to comfort you.

As a mom, I want to wear my big girl pants often–of course! But there is still a time and place for them to take a rest. I digress. Anyhow, boy am I thankful for my family. There are always ups and downs with family, but you love them just the same. And may I say that they love me just the same, and I am so glad. Mom & I got to have quality time, and she got to have some baby time, too. She loved on him, read to him, and talked to him so much. It brought tears to my eyes to see her enjoying her grandson. My dad was completely enchanted by his grandson, too, and I got to glimpse a bit of what his own fatherhood of myself and my brother must have been like. He kept saying, “What a beautiful baby you are! Did you know? You’re so very handsome.” What a great father. I have been blessed and gifted with two wonderful parents. Mom & I looked at some baby photos of my brother, and I reached into the past with my imagination. How time changes everything. Furthermore, Mom got out my baby diary that she’d lovingly kept, and made us both laugh until we had tears in our eyes because of the hilarity of it all. Would you believe that I was a biter?! And a baby-hitter?! How could I do such things??!!! But I suppose that’s another story for another book.

So I will end this here, and call it a night. Though I know you want to know so badly why I hit a baby when I was two years old.
Adieu.

-M

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Your Corner of The World.



Part of my life entails teaching a course at my college, Environmental Science & Stewardship, every Friday.  I lead discussions, we watch intriguing and inspiring videos, and I hope to include more hands-on, get-yourself dirty, active aspects this semester.  Having this job creates elements of responsibility & activism that encourage me onward in my saga to do my part as often as possible: I am a steward of God’s Creation.  I’m not just a person who is an automaton teacher–I am on a mission with students who can change the world.  Consequently, because of my faith in restoring creation, I am eager to impress upon my students the changes that they can make, I can make, and that we can make together.  In order to instill a longing and appreciation towards preserving beauty & acquiring stewardship, I hope to continue in leadership capacities such as this.  An end dream I have would be to combine the skills I’ve been blessed to learn, and the resources I know are available, in order to create a family education group in a community (who knows, maybe this will be in years to come, and I don’t know where we’ll be by then!) that needs it.  As part of this, I would want to simply shout to the mountaintops the fact that we can all do something.  Whatever your station, whatever your experience (or inexperience!) you are someone unique, with a certain place in the world that connects to all others:

Students:  In some of the most advantageous positions to acquire new skills and understandings, students are capable of many things!  You could start a movement.  You could create a non-profit.  There are many things happening, and possible, in a world full of technology.  I began a “Green Group” at my college, and though it is difficult to keep a fledgling group active, I am still working at making this kind of thing a reality.  Students, you have so many professors, intellectuals, colleagues, and friends that can be legions for brainstorms.  If you see a problem in your world, and you see something that can be done, DO IT, by all means.  Does your campus recycle?  Is there a population of teens in the area that are troubled and need mentorship?  Do you see homeless individuals in your area?  Believe me, I know what it means to be the annoying squeaky wheel… but how do you think anything comes into fruition?  The squeaky wheel matters.  : )

Businesses: Many businesses work in a creative or innovative capacity, which is wonderful!– but a gigantic amount of resources are often used in the process of providing services.  Sometimes with just a bit of extra work or a little extra thought, these resources don’t have to be utilized, or an alternative solution can be found.  Paper is probably something nobody thinks much of, but a little thing can create a big pile of waste.  If your business doesn’t recycle, consider the options available.  If you can opt for direct deposit, it’s very convenient, and saves a bit of resources every month.  If there is a cause in your community, a family in need, or a charity auction happening, try to see that your business can be an agent of positive change.  Oftentimes things like these are small ways that a business can send a very clear message to their clients:  We are socially responsible, thoughtful, and possess ingenuity!  We have a special feature at our company: We care about our actions. As someone who is choosy about where I shop & who gets my business, I am careful to select brands and companies that give to charitable organizations, volunteer their time, do micro-lending (find out what that’s about at Kiva), do not test their products on animals, or offset their carbon footprint.  Nobody can do everything, but everyone can certainly do something.  If you’d like to see a cool website that rates products based on health, environment, and responsibility, check out  The Good Guide.I highly recommend finding out what kind of rating your house hold items receive and why.

Moms, Dads, Teachers, Mentors, Brothers & Sisters, Family, etc.:  In some way or another, this can apply to all of us.  We all have parents, we have all had teachers, and more likely than not we are connected to someone in another generation.  There is not a single person I can think of who wasn’t impacted strongly by one person in these categories.  These roles are essential in our world.  I salute you for responsibility in raising the world’s next generation: this is a very big shoe to fill indeed.  In your actions and choices, you are being carefully watched by tiny spies all around you.  They may not seem as though they are taking it all in and observing your every move, but they are!  The kids that take their cues from you come to value you more highly than you realize, and will probably become somewhat like you in future.  If you believe in restoring our world, and responsibility… if you think that we can all make a difference, then the buck stops here.  Sign that bill and pass it into law: you have the power.  Playing with the kids in your lives, investing in their ideas, being role models & listening with heartfelt sincerity, you make all the difference of a  very influential world leader.  Day-to-day, your actions and motivations matter to these young ones: our future teachers and leaders.

Singles: I definitely didn’t want to leave this part of the equation out.  Many people are overlooked when they’re in the single stage of life.  So much more bustling action seems to be happening with the newlywed crowd, new families, or the matchy couples who do everything together.. or sometimes maybe not.  I have seen single people who have a passion and tunnel headfirst into it with all of the energy and determination necessary to start a riot with good results!  At some places that I have volunteered or been a part of, I see that the most inspiring and most selfless are often those who realize that their single life has more time to give, more dedication available, and is greatly rewarded when selfish desires aren’t their central focus.  Some of the most impactful singles I can think of are Mother Theresa & Paul of Tarsus.  It seems they channeled all of their life energy into serving others.  I want to emphasize how special this time of your life is, whether you like it and want to be single, or whatever your situation.  Your assets are many without being tied down, and you can make a difference in the lives of others.

No matter what your corner of the globe, so to speak, your life is like a web: it is interwoven, connected, and continually changed by the lives of others.  We can’t function alone and disconnected. We are all a part of this world and the beauty in that is this: we are never alone with our battles, and in seeking solutions.  If you can connect yourself, believe in yourself and in people, some pretty astounding things can become possible.

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Virtues of Thriftiness


Raised in a home that never wasted, always recycled, and re-used, I have realized the value of being thrifty.  I am always up for a trip to the thrift store, I love finding things on craigslist, and freecycle is a nifty way to give things away and find things you need–while keeping items out of landfills.  I was able to give away about five of my homecoming/prom dresses to a girl about my size who is still in high school: I felt great knowing that she’d get to enjoy them and look good while doing it.  : )  Those dresses could certainly get more than one wear out of them!  While this may give you a somewhat old-ladyish picture of me, thrifting is anything but.  You can find amazing, hot steals if you try and if you’re patient, and the generosity of others never fails to amaze me.  Being thrifty does not mean sacrificing quality!

My mom & dad have a knack for collecting beautiful things from their travels: finds from here, there, and everywhere.  These things have a lot of meaning to them–years spent abroad as a newly married couple (they were married on my mom’s 18th birthday!) are encapsulated within each precious item.  My mom has china from Japan, sushi dishes, teacups, etc. that reflect the beauty of artisans who created them.  There is a huge glass fishing ball that I’ve admired since I was a kid.  Another of my favorites is the silkscreen they have hanging in their living room, it has birds delicately painted on the surface.


While I’ve always been surrounded by art, music, and culture, my parents (especially mom) were clear in their actions that money was something to be used with caution.  I remember absolutely HATING shopping around thrift stores with my mom when I was a kid.  When you’re that small, you just want to get something you want and then go do something else that’s more fun.  Now I can realize in retrospect that Mom always had an agenda: She had a list of things she had been looking for, and she was going to find them!  Sometimes it took her a couple of months, or others she hit the jack pot right away.  But she taught me some valuable lessons with her frugality:

1) Being Thrifty Pays:  Mom & Dad have worked hard in their lives, and so have been able to save money and send me to college.  This doesn’t mean money grew on trees, though.  My mom always had the finances figured out, and because my family didn’t pay for things like 500 channels of cable T.V., didn’t buy things new, and often went without because we realized we didn’t need it… there was always money available for more crucial needs.

2) Being Thrifty is Green! One of my favorite things about thrifting is this: My mom pointed out that if you buy things at a thrift store, (Goodwill mainly functions like this) you are actually buying stuff that people donated!  That means they could’ve thrown their old crap out, but instead they donated it to a worthy cause because it was still in good condition.  Thus the green cycle triumphs as superior to the consumerist mentality.

3) Being Thrifty Grows Discipline, Hard Work, & Patience: As a newlywed, my hubby & I are pretty careful with our money, (thanks, Dave Ramsey!) or we try to be.  When we’re grocery shopping, often one of us will look at the other with an item in our hand and say “What do you think?”  We assess the item, sizing it up for quality and necessity.  Often it’s something we don’t need, or don’t need immediately, and if it is something we’d like to have, then we agree that we could look on Amazon or elsewhere.  It’s difficult to deny yourself the pleasure of the instant consumer high in purchasing lotsa “COOL!  NEW!  STUFF!”  but it makes you feel almost equally happy to have said no to yourself, and grown a little bit of discipline & patience.  In some cases, when it’s a big item, we realize that we will have to save up or work more.  Though it’s difficult not to just charge it on the card, in the long run we know it’s worth it.

Though the world is constantly telling us in its booming, shouting voice, “CONSUME!  BUY IT ALL!  COME ON, YOU DESERVE IT!” lets be honest with ourselves for a moment.  It’s a trap!  With hard work and by putting a little thought into what we buy, we CAN have many of the things we wish to… but not the way the market wants us to.  People who are pushing ads and products are only phonies trying to sell you the hottest thing so that they can make the biggest dollar.  Stick it to the man, don’t let them win!  You can have those things–Pay your bills first & bargain shop a little.  In my life, it’s helped immensely.  I’m thankful for the Virtue of Thriftiness, which Mom & Dad continue to rock daily.  : )  Thanks guys!

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